(click to start playing, click on YouTube symbol to see full list of songs) A love letter to all the mean scary Femmes. Love songs for Femmes who have been made to feel like their greatness is a burden. Like they are too bright, too emotional, too boundaried, too intense. You are not too much.… Continue reading Femmes, You Are NEVER Too Difficult To Love
(click to start playing, click on YouTube symbol to see full list of songs) An epic litany for grief, rage, and power. Organized loosely by genre, moving from grief to power in each one.
"it's great to see religious communities represented in the parade but it would be nice to have them show up at moments like this" One of my dearest friends sent me an email last week after going toe to toe with one of those bullshit hateful "preachers" that like to show up at Queer events.… Continue reading Fellow Christians, It Is Not Enough To March In Our Parade
Written for Pacific School of Religion's 150th Commencement Service “Call for the mourning women to come, send for the skilled women. Let them raise a dirge over us, So that our eyes may run down with tears.” (Jeremiah 9:17-18) What does it mean to carry the gift of grieving? To know how to touch a… Continue reading We Are The Balm, Pt 1
Written for Overdose Prevention As Resurrection a Chapel service at PSR. You can watch the entirety of the service here. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried since we started working on this service. There has been so much grief. So much unnecessary loss. I was 20 on the day of Erich’s funeral.… Continue reading Overdose Prevention as Resurrection
A few weeks ago I launched my first writing workshop, "Finding Divinity In The Profane". Below is a participants response to the prompt: Where Do You Worship. Where do you worship? I worship in two beds One that swallows me whole And one that holds me hard Softness of a body And the hardness of… Continue reading Response: Where Do You Worship?
Resources on Queer Misogyny, Transmisogyny, and Misogyny In General Compiled by Blyth Barnow from the brilliance found in the Femme Secret Society facebook group Header image created by the Femme who runs Wicked Queer This list of articles was generated as a result of countless conversations between Femmes about how to navigate the intense misogyny they… Continue reading Resources On Queer Misogyny Compiled By Femmes
It’s been 6 months. Some ways I've made it through: Wore black for 40 days Made an altar for you Put crystals in my bra Kept a candle lit whenever I was home Left your bags in my car Took grief herbs Ate nothing Avoided your name Cleaned my room Cleared out my closet Got my… Continue reading 100 Ways I’ve Grieved
for Amanda "Arkansassy" Harris and All Of Us Amanda…... *pause* Strange isn’t it. How the sound of her name holds a new weight. As if it were an incantation. Or a lament. Strange how the whisper of her name can sometimes feel like a scream. That’s what grief does. It transforms. It disfigures. It makes… Continue reading Broken Things. A Eulogy
Written after meeting Erin Allday, Kevin, and Mick of Last Men Standing an article and film about long term survivors of HIV/AIDS. One: For being unable to grieve Many: You are forgiven One: For not going to the funerals Many: You are forgiven One: For being unable to do anything Many: You are forgiven One: For working… Continue reading A Litany For Long-Term HIV/AIDS Survivors